YES or NO | big decisions

January 30th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

When a blog topic occurs to me, I let it stew for a while.  Sometimes weeks.  Then I write it in one go, editing ruthlessly along the way.  This blog is not a day-to-day journal – more a collection of essays.

So perhaps a little snapshot of our ‘real lives’ is in order.  [Photo above: Owen and Jamie embarking on an archeological dig] From now on, I will occasionally post about family life.  Interestingly, while ‘Owen and his disabilities’ occupies a substantial proportion of my strategic and long-term thinking, Owen himself is rarely the central focus of my day.  In fact, I’ve set things up specifically so that he’s not.

And on that note, I’ll get started with some random details:

Overall, Owen has been happy and engaged.  Ready to face the day and always eager to connect with people.  Manageability continues to be a challenge, but that’s not really his problem.   I am very happy with our current caregiver situation, including the addition of Mark, a capable young family man whose other job is tattooing.  Brings a welcome new energy to Owen’s life and to my household.

Angus is undergoing what Steiner calls the ‘9 year change’.  It’s a lonely and sometimes frightening time for children and I can see signs of it in him.  There’s an underlying melancholy at times, but mostly I see an interesting and interested boy.  Still into Lego.  Guitar lessons and trampoline classes are extra activities.  Video games and random television are not allowed, but he watches movies on weekends.  Ongoing request for Lord of the Rings.  The answer is still no.

Owen has a caregiver with him 8-10 hours a day (except weekends).  This provides me with enough time to earn a living, spend time with Angus and tend to the household.  I sometimes nap if Owen’s had a rough night.  The boys spend alternating weekends (and a weekly overnight) at their dad’s, giving me time to catch up on sleep and work.  Sometimes I even have time to paint, take pictures and see friends.

I have been with my partner C for about 2.5 years.  We don’t live together but we live in the same house – my household is on one floor and his is on another, interconnected by a stairwell through the kitchen.   Unconventional, but works great for us.

My family:  3 brothers (Toronto, California, London England), Mom (Cambridge ON) and Dad and his wife (Stratford ON).

That’s all for now.

Oh!  I got a new digital SLR camera for Christmas!

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January 14th, 2010 | 4 Comments »

As Owen gets bigger and more wiggly I can sense the forthcoming horrific decisions that are coming my way.  He is not that heavy yet (48 lbs) nor is he that tall (drat, I forget…  he’s short) but consider his size when he’s doing his best imitation of a greased seal and you’ll perhaps appreciate how difficult it can be to manage him.

Owen has virtually no control of his movements due to the unhappy combination of dystonia and spasticity.  Often, he extends through his whole body so powerfully he gets deep marks in his thighs and shoulders from his wheelchair’s lapbelt and chest straps.  When he can’t sit comfortably (which is a lot of the time), he must be released from his binds and laid on the floor.  Because of the lack of support there he writhes, twists and contorts himself into impossible pretzel shapes and must be rescued from himself.  The pressure in his stomach is so strong he pushes up his food and chokes/sputters every time he lies down.  And so then, the only option left is to be held in someone’s lap/arms, supported in a way that provides nothing less than a full-body restraint, using chin, hands, feet, thighs, knees to restrict the movement of a wayward flailing arm, flopping head and extended and rotated leg.  He thrusts, twists, flops and lunges in quick succession, sometimes, incomprehensibly, all at the same time.  I’m exhausted just thinking about it, even as I hear him snoring now in his bed.

While Owen’s condition is not degenerative, it is certainly progressive – meaning, he’s getting harder to manage.  I see that we can’t keep this up.  Not me, his dad, his caregivers, probably not even Owen.  Not like this.

We met with Owen’s neurologist earlier this week, to review meds and talk about next steps.  Again, the only tools in her toolbox are increasing meds and considering DBS – deep brain stimulation.  Increasing meds was an easy sell in the moment, but for a number of reasons it’s no long-term solution.  And so, what of DBS?

To date my reactions to the procedure have been, well, reactive.  Icky scar on the head, invasive battery implanted under the collar bone, scary probe in the brain…  Sounds all science-fictionlike and creepy.  But when I take a step back, I can ask What about heart pacemakers?  Artificial limbs?  What about cochlear implants?  These were all met with skepticism (by some) but are fully embraced today.  This DBS technology will be standard in 10 years. Maybe 5.  Perhaps I will feel foolish for being so resistant now.  Owen would not be alive today were it not for technology.  And anyway is DBS any more invasive than all those medications we give him several times a day, which by the way do little for his symptoms but in some cases create other problems?

I have decided to face my demons and learn more.  It’s only information (I tell myself).   No good decisions were ever based on fear and ignorance.  I am going to get the referral, meet the neurosurgeon and ask the important questions.

Someone has to do it.

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December 20th, 2009 | 15 Comments »

I have spent the past 11 years fending off misconceptions that I must hate my life and that I must be angry or depressed about my son.  Often those misconceptions come from people without direct experience with disability – sometimes I explain, but mostly I just continue to live my life as authentically as possible, sharing what I feel and don’t feel along the way.

People don’t make this assumption about me out of nowhere;  online and in real life, I witness varying degrees of anger, outrage, sadness and helplessness expressed by caregivers of children like Owen.  And honestly there’s little here I can relate to.  (Except maybe the sadness.  Yes.  I can relate to the sadness…)

Here’s the objective truth: I have a son with multiple severe disabilities.  The obvious ones are physical and are SO very obvious that they mask any cognitive ability he may or not have.   Because there is no way to get specific responses out, I have no idea how much he ‘knows’.  He is of course even more limited by his environment – his interactions are primarily with caregivers and because he is deaf, his only opportunity to engage with language is when someone signs directly to him.  (Hearing children grow up surrounded by spoken language and develop language recognition long before they actually speak.  This exposure is critical to development, and Owen has not had that as he has not grown up around signing people.)   Regardless of his ‘potential’, he can’t do anything and his cognitive abilities are not knowable.  I will say that again:  He Really Can’t Do Anything And I Have No Way To Tell What He Understands.

Now here’s my subjective truth:  I accept these circumstances are real.  And I accept (after a few hard-scrambling years of various interventions) that right now, especially as a single mom with my own business and another child to support, there’s nothing I can do about it.  And I feel peace in relinquishing the fight against something I know I will never conquer.

I have said ‘I accept’ and sometimes it’s heard as ‘I accept my son for who he is and I wouldn’t have it any other way!’.  Would I have it another way?  Sure I would.  I would live in a world where I get a full night’s sleep and I am not on constant alert, waiting to see if my son is going to die today.  But that’s where my wishing ends because anything else  is even more futile.  I don’t wish my son could talk or walk or eat or hear.   I don’t try to wish away his disabilities.  Wishing is a waste of time.  Like guilt.

Let me be clear: I don’t relish or savour Owen’s disabilities any more than I relish or savour Angus’ stubbornness or occasionally tyrannical demands.  Life sure would be easier without any of it.  But I can’t separate out Owen’s disabilities from who he is fundamentally.  His disabilities completely mask anything below.  So I take him at face value and love and accept it all.

I hear other parents’ bargains, offering up organs or limbs or eyes or their very lives if their child could do this or be relieved of that.  It’s noble and righteous I suppose, but where would it get me?  I choose to not engage in those conversations, with myself or others, because it takes me out of reality.  It’s like a child’s negotiation with god – and it leaves me feeling empty and heartbroken and desperate.  There’s nothing more depressing than wishing things were different.

I also believe this in terms of  pain and suffering, and death and dying.

My child experiences pain and suffering, some days more than others.  I am doing everything I can to relieve it – it’s a very human and proper impulse and one I feel deeply…   but still, he has pain and he suffers.   So what am I supposed to do with that?   Engage in more bargains?  Take on his pain as my own?  Know that it’s never going to be enough but still struggle on, searching and experimenting?  The rest of  my journey is letting go of this self-imposed judgment and expectation (and resisting our society’s seductive opinion) that in order to be a good mother to my son I must take up the good fight and never ever stop.

Even the pain and suffering – I don’t waste any time wishing they were gone.  I strive instead to support Owen through this life the best way I know how.  I do what I can, which is a lot, and work to let go of the rest.  By ‘let go’, I mean stop the searching for solutions that simply aren’t there and trust that what my child needs most is a calm, non-reactive presence.

This, finally, is a goal I can meet.

(photo:  Owen and Grace)

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December 9th, 2009 | 2 Comments »

(I got it!  It came to me this morning.  And it’s so very unCanadian.)

I am not going to help you through your discomfort and make it all better.  I can’t.  And I don’t want to.  ‘This’ is not just happening to me – you are here too, seeing, reacting, feeling.  Something is happening to you as well.  Do you feel moved?  Do you want to cry?  Are you feeling drawn towards us?  Or away?  Engage with me about that instead of  burdening me with your awkwardness and good intentions.

I will never be rude or impolite and I may even play along a bit (a teaching moment!)- but when this oft-repeated fully-scripted conversation is finished neither of us will be better for it.

(thank you SKJ)

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December 5th, 2009 | 12 Comments »

Sometimes I cheer people up.   Not because I try to, but because sometimes people will compare their own stresses to what they assume are mine and will be drawn to ‘count their blessings’.  I suppose I should live and let live, but I am drawn to comment…

(I find this type of post hard to write, so I will adopt the literary device of speaking to you, the reader, as though you are the one who was stressed out and – after being inspired and counting your blessings – is now feeling better.)

It’s All Relative

My experiences with my child are extraordinary.  Uncommon.  And have evolved to this point over many many years.  No one handed to me a diapered, tube-fed 11-year-old boy who – despite what well-meaning people want to think – is not improving or getting better.

Rather, I had a complicated pregnancy.  Which required surgery in utero. And then I had a sick baby.   Who turned out to be deaf.  Who then turned out to have multiple significant disabilities, revealed excruciatingly slowly over a long decade – revealed not by things happening, but by things NOT happening.   The only actual shock was the first one – the moment I understood the routine ultrasound was abnormal.  My capacity to absorb information and alter course has increased a million times over since that first shocker, and yours would have too.

Your own experience is your own experience.  You might find it distressing that your child is not doing well in school, or that your baby is colicky, or that your child says she hates you.  And I can fully understand why you might feel like I’m the last person you would want to complain to about it.   (And honestly, I’m too tired to really give you support anyway.)  But you should not dismiss your completely normal stress response because you think I’m worse off.

It’s Disconnecting

People often tell me I’m inspiring.  When it’s other parents in similar circumstances, I can appreciate the sentiment.  And there are occasionally other situations when it feels appropriate and authentic.  But when you said it just now, it made me wince.  Because it was followed by ‘when I face (insert difficulty here), I think of all you have to endure and I count my blessings’.  (Those darned blessings again!)  So what does that mean exactly?  What are you trying to say?  And how do you suppose I might feel, hearing that?  Should I feel good?  Would you?

This might feel unfair, I know, but I’ll say this anyway:  It’s a little like showing up in a soup kitchen, ladling out a meagre portion to a starved, beaten-down man and saying “You’re so inspiring!  Look at what you have to deal with!  I am grateful I’m not like you!”  (Did I just call myself a starved, beaten-down man?)

I suppose what I’m saying is that, even if you’re feeling and thinking it, it’s really not necessary to share it with me.  In this case, the spoken admiration is just your swallowed fear.  If you’re thinking it makes me feel good – it doesn’t.

It’s Not Actually True.  Maybe.  If You Asked You Would Know For Sure.

Please don’t get me wrong – I know that you care for my family and me and are doing your best to express it.  But your statement reveals that you think I have a really hard life – and that always invites pity.  What you fail to realize is that again, it’s all relative.  You, stepping into my life, would certainly take some time to adjust and for sure it would feel like a very hard life.   But that is not the case.  I’m not you and I never was.  I don’t think I have ever thought I have a hard life – but I do have deep joy and sorrow and fulfillment and grief that make for a very full life and I would tell you all about it – if you simply asked.

Maybe you do want to know, but instead you say ‘I just can’t imagine! It must be so hard.”  (followed by “You’re so inspiring!”)

There is no room in this exchange for me to tell you that most times I don’t actually wish my son was different, only that the world was more accommodating.  That my hopes for my son used to revolve around achievements like walking and talking but over time devolved to improved sitting and swallowing and now are simply about not choking or aspirating.  And that actually, the lowered bar brings so much more peace than all that pursuit of progress. There is no opportunity in this conversation to say that I live every day wondering if he is going to live until tomorrow and that if he doesn’t, the depth of my sadness will only be matched by the enormity of my relief.   You haven’t asked me what I’m going to do when he’s adult because maybe you don’t want to hear me say I don’t know, I really don’t know and maybe he won’t even live that long.

It’s not hard to say any of this because it’s all so very true and I live it every day.  Hard would be denying it.

Maybe We’re Not That Different

“Look for the similarities.”  I had a therapist say that to me once.  Many times actually.  Look for the similarities, not the differences.  That’s where you’ll find the healing.  I tend to agree.

The world is full of disappointment, excitement, pain, passion, beauty.  I feel all of it, and I’m quite sure you do too.   Let’s talk about that instead.

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November 21st, 2009 | No Comments »

(a walk down mid-town Toronto’s beltline path…)

Among us parents of children with disabilities who qualify for government support, there are several hot topics that come up in conversation – even when we’ve just met.  The biggest one, always asked with a slight hesitation, is ‘How much are you getting?’.  I think the hesitation comes from a hope that it’s not more than what the asker is getting!  Not because of schadenfreude really, but because we want to know that we’re receiving our maximum allowance…  The other hesitation is from our society’s taboo about asking about money.

I actually considered revealing what my funding dollars are but no, I won’t.   Instead, here’s what I’m comfortable revealing:  number of hours for specific programs, and other programs I access for funding support.   Most of us know all of these programs anyway, but for those of you new to the game, maybe there’s something here for you.  If some of it sounds confusing, that’s because it is.  I would be happy to clarify any of these items in email correspondence.  And if I’ve missed anything, do let me know!!

Respite/Education/Support*

• CCAC allotted respite hours:  11 hours/week
• Special Services at Home + Respite Enhancement Funding**: 7 hours/week
• Home Schooling funding (provided through the Ministry of Health, which is somehow accessing allocated funds from the Ministry of Education.  Contract provided by CCAC***):  6 hours a day for every school day

Average weekly (prorated over a year):   42 hours/week

Other Funding Programs:

• Easter Seals’ Incontinence Supplies Grant Program
• Easter Seals’ Recreational Choices Program
• Easter Seals’ Top-up Funding Program (application sent, not receiving yet)
• Assistance for Children with Severe Disabilities
• Child Tax Benefit (for children with disabilities)

* Each program has its own contract and invoicing system.  I am required to account for these hours and have the forms signed by the workers.  I pay the support workers bi-weekly then receive reimbursement from the specific program through automated deposit.  I always pay the workers exactly what is dictated by the program and believe in full transparency.  To ensure fairness, I have chosen to not employ certain workers under certain contracts (each contract is for a different hourly amount!).  Instead, I have divided the hours in the day by program (for example, 9am-3pm falls under the homeschooling program).  When I pay each worker, we see which hours were worked when, and I pay them accordingly. In some cases, the program pays the worker directly after I’ve accounted for the hours.   Schedules vary week to week so it’s a bit of a hassle, but it’s the only way to ensure I am fairly allocating funds and also honouring the intent of the various programs.  I should add that I pay privately for an additional 5-10 hours a week, depending on my family’s needs.  Owen’s father and I share the expense of this added cost.

**Wow.  There is virtually no information online about this program.  Ask your CCAC caseworker.  This funding is for medically-complex children who also have some kind of technology dependency.

***Follow the provided link and scroll down to the section called “Support Services Offered by the Ministry of Health and Long-Term Care”, which provides a lame description of the support. It works like this: Homeschooling is now ‘legal’ in Ontario. Homeschooled children have the right to access certain services that are available to school children – personal support for special needs being one of them. Because none of the Ministries have a mechanism to fulfill the program requirements of the homeschooling legislation, I was required to find a community agency willing to act as a flow-through funder.  I work with a lovely group here in Toronto (who will remain nameless) who graciously agreed to sign the contracts and write the cheques.  I invoice them, and they invoice the Ministry program.  They receive a small fee for their administrative work. I sign two contracts: one between CCAC, the Ministry of Health and myself, and the other between myself, the support worker and the community agency.

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November 7th, 2009 | 5 Comments »

I had one signed this week.  (The form is signed by a physician, not the parent.)  After months of sitting on the document, I decided to finally just do it.

It wasn’t actually a fraught decision;  I have always known my own limits for what interventions for Owen are acceptable and what are not.  The standard form for DNR (in Ontario, anyway) includes a list of actions that paramedics are legally excused from performing, including administering certain medications, chest compressions and artificial ventilation.

After thinking about it for a long while, I settled on an acceptable (customized) list and had Owen’s physician sign it.  She, and Owen’s dad, agreed with my decisions.

I then showed the form to all of our caregivers (actually, one more left…) and anyone else who figures into our everyday lives.  I made clear my intentions, my decision and my rationale and was open to discussing any reactions.  Everyone said they are supportive and some seemed relieved that a plan had been communicated.

This post is not about the details of the DNR or even whether or not I think you should sign one.  It’s a deeply personal matter and one about which I have no judgement.  Rather, I encourage you to think about how you would want an emergency handled.  Decide what you must and then inform anyone who needs to know.

For me, the details of the DNR were decided strictly on the basis of Owen’s likelihood to survive the intervention and what his life might look like afterwards.  However, the decision to contemplate it at all and finally get it in place was motivated (in part) by a completely different set of factors.

I currently employ 5 caregivers who collectively work approx. 50 hours a week.  The chances of an emergency happening during that time are not negligible.  I feel it is my responsibility to share with them the ‘master plan’, to not only help them to know what to do, but also to relieve them of the terrible burden of powerlessness and potential regret.

I am quite certain they feel the fragility of Owen’s life and it possibly crosses their minds more than occasionally that one day Owen may not be around to care for.   If any one of them are so unlucky as to face a potentially fatal emergency with Owen, I would want them to remain present enough to support Owen and not have to fret about decisions and interventions.  Because I have made decisions in advance, I can give my full trust and support to these fine young women.  For the amount of responsibility they shoulder every time they arrive for work, it’s the least I can offer them in return.

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October 15th, 2009 | 2 Comments »

I am watching my boys growing and I am stunned at how quickly their childhoods are giving way to eventual adulthood.  I get ahead of myself a bit perhaps – they’re only 9 and 11 – but they’re over half way to what we typically think of as ‘grown up’.  So I feel entitled to take a moment to contemplate what has come before now and marvel at how much has been packed into what feels like a short time.  And to look forward, and wonder what is to become of these 2 young boys.

Interesting.  As I started writing this I thought it would be about Owen and how he might remember his childhood, and how he might feel he got or didn’t get what he wanted or needed.  Instead, I feel drawn to thinking more about Angus, Owen’s younger (but so much older) brother.

Angus is Owen’s champion.  His advocate.  Often, his voice.  He is outraged at the little indignities Owen suffers on a daily basis (heard on an elevator:  “what a lucky girl to have such curly hair!”  Angus:  “He’s NOT a girl!”)  He is thrilled when Owen knocks over his tower of soft blocks.  He is deeply worried for Owen’s health and wellbeing and does not want to hear about his surgeries or sufferings.   Angus has not one ounce of self-consciousness or embarrassment about Owen and is fiercely loyal.   I sometimes wonder about Owen’s eventual death – Is it soon?  Will I be there?  Will anyone witness the moment?  Whatever morose thing I’m thinking,  I feel the hot surge of my own grief and I then immediately think ‘Angus!’.

After me and Owen’s father, Angus is next in line for taking up Owen’s torch.  Angus knows this although I have never said it.  He often talks about looking forward to getting his driver’s license so he can ‘drive Owen around’.  He wonders what it will be like for him and Owen to live on their own one day, together.  I say nothing, but my heart breaks wide open every time.

I realize now that so much of what I do concerning Owen – how I speak about him, how I engage with him, how I care for him, how I include him – is as much for Angus as it is for Owen.   And it’s for Angus that I must model a life that is balanced, good and, well, fun. I don’t ever want Angus to think that he must suffer or break his back in order to offer love and care to another – his own brother or anyone else.  And I am determined to not let Owen be anyone’s reason for having a bad life.

Regardless of whether Angus does eventually become Owen’s caregiver and/or guardian, I want him to look upon his brother lovingly and respectfully and with an open heart, without the cloud of guilt or fear or burden that so many of us create for ourselves.

And I want him to believe that anything he does for Owen, borne out of these energies, is good enough.

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October 10th, 2009 | 4 Comments »

(Photo: not always a poster boy!)

[Apologies in advance to those I offend with the following post.]

A friend of mine used a term the other day:  compassion fatigue.  A numbness to the horrors of a particular situation, usually due to overexposure or experience.  It’s a risk to which all front-line healthcare and caregiver professionals are exposed and unfortunately, often succumb.

I’ve been thinking about this recently because I’ve been wondering how I can pass along my experience and (dare I say) wisdom for the greater good.  Working with parents and families who are struggling with this journey seems like an obvious option, but I know that as a ‘calling’, it’s not for me.  My compassion fatigue is just too high.

It’s not the stories themselves I have a problem with.  I think sharing and venting can be helpful.  It’s more the identification and attachment to the stories I get impatient with.

I wonder, as I wade through the masses of blog posts and articles and stories I compulsively read every day:  (Get ready – this is going to sound SOOO awful…) So what?

Yes, it’s hard.  Yes, it stinks.  Yes, we’re all tired and we hate the government and the schools and the people who stare and the diapers that leak and the pumps that break and we hate even the very IDEA that all of this is for a reason…  Yes, yes, yes.

I ask again:  So what?

And I add:  And so now?  What are you going to DO about it?

Don’t get me wrong.  I have been SOOO stuck.  Absorbed in my life as THE MOTHER OF A CHILD WITH DISABILITIES.  I have been there many times and no question, will be there again. (It takes many forms, by the way.  Fatigue, despair and worry, sure.  But also a hyperdetailed focus on planning, scheduling, advocating, therapy, improvement, involvement…  Can you relate?)  But always, there comes a time when I so thoroughly bore myself with my stuckness I have to claw my way out and paint or write or go for a run or build another website.  These are not momentary escapes from the drudgery of caring for a child with disabilities – these are gateways to sanity.  The decision point to move on and get a life.

So you see, I would be really bad at working with families or parents.  “Get a life” might sound a little harsh.

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September 17th, 2009 | 5 Comments »

I attended a fabulous un-conference*  yesterday about healthcare.

I knew in advance I would want to lead a session (anyone can if they like) and I mulled over 4 topics:

1. finding ways to extract and package parent knowledge to better inform healthcare practices
2. finding ways, through opt-in social networking strategies, to connect people with similar diagnoses (or other health-related commonalities)
3. finding ways to make healthcare data and patterns available to patients and their families, for the purposes of personal long-term planning, risk management and decision support
4. finding ways to build compassion and transparency into institutional communication, workflow and process

I went with number 3.  The session was well-attended with lots of great conversation and ideas.

This was my favourite:

Imagine this: a website, for parents like me, to map empirical research data against ACTUAL PATIENT EXPERIENCE.  A chart that shows long-range, longitudinal effects of medical, surgical and therapeutic decisions.  Including a Quality of Life measure that indicates patient/family satisfaction.  For example, cochlear implant surgeries are highly successful from a medical/surgical perspective.  But how happy are the children?  The parents?  What about children with multiple disabilities?  Do these numbers paint a different picture and how would those results influence other families’ future decisions?

So great to brainstorm with smart, engaged, interesting people.

I’m thinking about starting a CareCamp – an un-conference for caregivers to share ideas and stimulate change.  Anyone could come with the intention of supporting those who support our most vulnerable population.

Would you come?  Can you help?

* Do you know about un-conferences?  The camp model of un-conferences came out of the tech industry and has oozed to other sectors.  Basically, anyone can come and sign-up with the understanding that you are interested in the topic and are prepared to engage about it.  There is no agenda;  instead, after the groundrules are established, the attendees decide what they want to talk about.  Anyone can post a topic on the Grid (there was a big, taped grid on the wall, with rooms labelled across the top and timeslots down the side).  Once all topics are posted, attendees can decide where they want to go for the next session.  Popular topics have more people, less popular topics have fewer.  People can come and go.  Sessions expand and collapse.  At the end of the day, everyone gathers to determine actionable items and who needs help with what.

Healthcamp Toronto was sold out with 75 people, and attended by doctors, patients, Ministry employees, software developers, patient advocates, hospital administrators…  thought leaders in healthcare from many areas.   Cost?  $25.  It’s organic, open source and fabulous.  The only real rule is that someone has to take notes and post them to the website/wiki.  Here are our collective notes:  http://healthcamp.ca )

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